I did not speak. I simply stood up, walked through the sliding glass door into my kitchen, and opened the drawer where I kept the mail. The statement had arrived that morning. I had already circled Bradley’s upgrade charge in yellow highlighter because I had planned to ask Patricia about it privately, gently, after dessert. He had ordered the most expensive model available, added all the accessories—wireless earbuds, a charging dock, a protective case—and selected a payment plan without so much as a text message to me.