I remember our daughter Emma’s school play. She was the lead. William promised to be there. At 6:30, he whispered, ‘Uncle Henry’s pipe burst.’ He missed her proudest moment. Emma cried for an hour.

Through it all, I never once met this mysterious Uncle Henry. He never came for Thanksgiving, never called on William’s birthday, never sent a Christmas card. My husband said he was very ill, very fragile. ‘He doesn’t want you exposed,’ William would say.