So I told him. I told him about every cutting remark Alan had made over the years. The time he’d introduced me to a visiting executive and added, “Don’t let her quietness fool you, she’s much scrappier than she looks – isn’t that right, Judy?” The way he’d “accidentally” forwarded an email about weight loss programs to the entire department with me cc’d. The constant, grinding, relentless erosion of my confidence.