I felt my chest tighten. For years, I had called that same behavior kindness in myself. Now I was watching my daughter inherit it. That night, I lay awake in my bed, staring at the ceiling. I thought about all the times I had said yes to keep the peace. The dinners where I had swallowed my words. The checks I had written without question. The phone calls where I had been told what would happen next, never asked. I had convinced myself I was being generous, loving, patient. But what if I had simply been weak?