Dr. Baker nodded slowly. ‘Or perhaps,’ she said, ‘you both had different expectations of partnership, and neither of you communicated them until it was too late.’

That conversation stayed with me. I began to see that the tragedy wasn’t simply about $190. It was about two people who loved each other but were terrified of vulnerability. Michael needed proof I was all in, and I needed proof he wasn’t just looking for an admirer. Neither of us got what we needed, because neither of us knew how to ask.